The Secret Lives of Wives

The Secret Lives of Wives

Women Share What It Really Takes to Stay Married

eBook - 2011
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Draws on interviews with dozens of women who have remained married in spite of high divorce rates, revealing the agreements they share with their partners to keep their marriages strong and describing how they each maintain an independent identity.
Publisher: New York : Gotham Books, c2011.
ISBN: 9781101544525
Branch Call Number: eBOOK OVERDRI
Characteristics: 1 online resource
Additional Contributors: OverDrive, Inc


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Jun 05, 2012

I picked up this book about women who managed to make marriage last for decades because of a magazine article about it that highlighted the story of one woman who goes out with her college boyfriend once a year and makes out in his car as way to stay energized for her own marriage. I wondered if the whole book were along those lines. That story is in there, as part of a chapter on "naughty girls" who found that extra-marital adventures, some platonic and some very much not, helped them endure their marriages. But it's clear the author, herself married for 23 years, does not advocate that as the key to a lasting marriage.

Krasnow is a journalist, so like most journalism these days, this book is a collection of anecdotes of a dozen or so women who have been married at least 25 or 30 years (one woman profiled was married for 70 years before her husband passed away). There is quite a bit of variety in their stories, though Krasnow tries to find a common thread that involves having a job you love and having hobbies and interests that are your own. Even there, she includes one couple who have worked together for decades and rarely spend any time with anyone besides each other and love it that way. So, in fact, there is no single secret to lasting marriage.

Most of the women interviewed are educated and middle- or upper-class, so it's not clear that they are representative of the overall population or all long marriages. There are occasional references to actual sociological studies, but they take a distant back seat to the personal stories. The stories are often touching; some are nearly unbelievable (one woman endured a verbally abusive, drunken husband for decades before managing to turn him around and teach him civility). But in the end, they are unique to these women. You will still have to navigate your own course through your own relationship.


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