The Buddha & the Borderline

The Buddha & the Borderline

My Recovery From Borderline Personality Disorder Through Dialectical Behavior Therapy, Buddhism, & Online Dating

Book - 2010
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Kiera Van Gelder's first suicide attempt at the age of twelve marked the onset of her struggles with drug addiction, depression, post-traumatic stress, self-harm, and chaotic romantic relationships-all of which eventually led to doctors' belated diagnosis of borderline personality disorder twenty years later.

The Buddha and the Borderline is a window into this mysterious and debilitating condition, an unblinking portrayal of one woman's fight against the emotional devastation of borderline personality disorder. This haunting, intimate memoir chronicles both the devastating period that led to Kiera's eventual diagnosis and her inspirational recovery through therapy, Buddhist spirituality, and a few online dates gone wrong. Kiera's story sheds light on the private struggle to transform suffering into compassion for herself and others, and is essential reading for all seeking to understand what it truly means to recover and reclaim the desire to live.

Publisher: Oakland, CA : New Harbinger Publications, c2010.
ISBN: 9781572247109
Branch Call Number: 616.8585 VAN GEL
Characteristics: x, 246 p. ; 23 cm.
Alternative Title: Buddha and the borderline


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Sep 10, 2018

The first half of the book is well written and relatable, however, the cover ("my recovery from BPD") brings so much false hope for a good ending which doesn't exist. Spoiler alert. The author did not really recover; she suffers numerous relapse and has to rely on "[a community] and a language that can accommodate the borderline nature and experience", i.e. still has to be babysitted for life.

Oct 10, 2017

A much needed read to increase understanding. After years of hearing bad press about people having BPD, this writer clarified the origins of this condition, and how to help someone experiencing it, to look for the truth in any statements made by a person with BPD, the sheer vulnerability of that person and the extreme sensitivity felt that can make life seem unbearable, the value of DBT, and the message of hope, that the family can learn to support someone (although often years later) and plenty of hope that one can find that road to recovery.

Dec 02, 2016

I happened across this memoir while searching my library's catalogue for books about Borderline Personality Disorder. I was intrigued by the title and that it's written from the perspective of a BPD survivor (for lack of a better term). The book itself read more like a textbook at times, which really took me away from Van Gelder's story. I think most people who'd pick up this memoir would do so because it's about BPD, so it stands to reason that most of your readers will already know enough about the disorder to dive right into your story without having to waste time on formalities. Van Gelder really misses the mark in this way, making the book overall a less interesting read than I hoped for. Not a terrible book, but not terribly good either.

Aug 02, 2016

This book is explicitly racist and classist at moments.

Jun 21, 2014

I really enjoyed this book because its the first time I have found a book that is about Borderline Personality Disorder that gives a person hope for recovery. Kiera keeps it upbeat at times while also talking candidly about the struggles. I would recommend for anyone who struggles with this disorder.

Jan 07, 2014

Looking forward to reading this book. It was highly recommended by a sufferer of Borderline Personality Disorder who as gotten her emotions under control.

stackshound Dec 30, 2011

This was great. Very relate-able, very sympathetic, very informed.

penpencil22 Jun 23, 2011

so helpful! definitely one of the best books on borderline personality that I've read so far.

Jun 21, 2011

A very well written page-turner.

Mar 11, 2011

An amazing book. It was one of the only borderline stories I could truly relate too.


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