On Being a Refugee, an American — and a Human Being:
http://diacritics.org/2017/02/viet-thanh-nguyen-on-being-a-refugee-an-american-and-a-human-being/

I knew the basics of our history as well as I knew the story of Adam and Eve: the Communists had marched from North Vietnam in 1975 to invade South Vietnam, driving us out, all the way across the Pacific to California.
===
“There’s a reason why saints are martyred. Nobody can stand them.”
===
He tried to forget what he’d discovered, how little other lives mattered to him when his own was at stake.
===
Stories are just things we fabricate, nothing more. We search for them in a world besides our own, then leave them here to be found, garments shed by ghosts.
===
They were there in the kitchen with us, the ghosts of the refugees and the ghosts of the pirates, the ghost of the boat watching us with those eyes that never closed, even the ghost of the girl I once was, the only ghosts my mother feared.
===
“You died too,” he said. “You just don’t know it.”

“I’m sorry to hear about your husband and your sons.” “Sorry for what?” Mrs. Hoa’s voice was shrill. “Whoever said my husband was dead? No one saw him die. No one saw my youngest son die, either. They’re alive, and no one like you is going to tell me otherwise.”
===
Everyone needs a doctor or a lawyer, but who needs a philosopher? We can get advice for free from the priest.”
===
“There’s no doubt about it. They don’t believe in God and they don’t believe in money.” “But they believe in taking other people’s money,” my father said.
===
“I haven’t come back,” he said. “I’ve come here.” “You haven’t left this world yet?”
===
“The dead move on,” he had said, coiled in his armchair, hands between his thighs. “But the living, we just stay here.”
===
“Are you going to be the kind of person who always pays the asking price?” my mother demanded. “Or the kind who fights to find out what something’s really worth?”

“It’s like beautiful people and ugly people,” Louis said. “Beautiful people can’t let on that they need ugly people. But without the ugly, the beautiful wouldn’t look half so good. Am I right? Tell me I’m right.”
===
“The moral of the story is this,” Louis said, choosing a bird for himself. “The more fakes there are, the more that people who can’t buy the real things want them. And the more people buy the fakes, the more the real things are worth. Everybody wins.”
===
“We all tell ourselves what we want to hear. The point, Arthur, is this: Do you want to hear what I’m telling myself?”
===
For those with limited income, didn’t the right to own some Italian style trump any possible losses to Dolce & Gabbana?
===
“You see how the Communists weren’t satisfied with killing my son once?” Mrs. Hoa aimed her gaze at me. “They killed him twice when they desecrated his grave. They don’t respect anybody, not even the dead.”

With age was supposed to come wisdom, but he wasn’t certain what wisdom felt like, whereas intelligence he knew to be a constant firing of the synapses, the brain a six-barreled Gatling gun of activity. Now his mind was shooting thoughts through only one or two barrels.
===
Louis preferred to say “better than genuine.” But, he always emphasized, his wares actually were better, in the sense of being much, much cheaper.
===
“I’ve tried love,” Louis said, as if it were a kind of soft, malodorous French cheese.
===
...his fountain pens with their plastic barrels, his sunglasses without ultraviolet protection, his watches that kept perfect time for a day, his designer jackets without linings, his pants with hems that unraveled easily, his discs of pirated movies filmed surreptitiously in theaters, his reproductions of Microsoft software so perfect as to come with the bugs infesting the genuine item, his pseudopills that might or might not help, might or might not harm—

A window and narrow horizontal slits at the top of the high walls provided ventilation, the air pushed about by a ceiling fan that rotated as slowly as a chicken on a spit.
===
“You’re not a native,” Carver said. “You’re an American.” “That’s a problem I’m trying to correct.”
===
“We’re a mixed bag.” “They don’t know what to make of us?” Michiko said. “I’m used to it, but you’re not.” “Try being a Japanese wife at a Michigan air base in 1973.” “Touché,” Claire said. “Try being a black man in Japan,” Carver said. “Or Thailand.”
===
But seen up close, from this height, the countryside was so poor that the poverty was neither picturesque nor pastoral: tin-roofed shacks with dirt floors, a man pulling up the leg of his shorts to urinate on a wall, laborers wearing slippers as they pushed wheelbarrows full of bricks.
===
“I said I have a Vietnamese soul. It’s a figure of speech. It’s an expression."

He had never explained to Claire the difficulty of precision bombing, aiming from forty thousand feet at targets the size of football fields, like dropping golf balls into a coffee cup from the roof of a house.
===
Before Michiko and the children, he believed he would die in an airplane or behind the wheel of a very fast car, anything involving high velocity and a sudden, arresting stop. Now he knew he would probably die with panic pooling in his lungs, in a place where he was not supposed to be, on the wrong side of the world.
===
I was thirty-three, but my father didn’t think anyone was a man until he fathered children.
===
Mimi was the first of my father’s mistresses and girlfriends that I’d seen, the mysterious women that my mother screamed about to my father behind their bedroom door when my brothers and sisters and I were younger.
===
Vietnamese women took care of their men, doted on them, and these same women wanted men like me, neither too American nor too Vietnamese.

“Who says I want her back?” “Don’t be an idiot. You were only half a man before you met her, and you’re back to being half a man now.”
===
“If I go back, they will call me a war criminal. They will put me in reeducation, and you will never hear from me again.”
===
“A beautiful country,” she said, which was what everyone said about it. “Poor and hot, but beautiful.”
===
I hadn’t known Los Angeles even had oil. But I guess oil was to be found in every part of the world, just like anger and sorrow.
===
“The only way a man knows right from wrong is when he makes a choice.”
===
“I never loved your mother.” “I don’t want to hear it.” “But I respected her,” he continued. “She was dutiful. She was a good woman. My father chose her for me because she was a virtuous girl, even though he knew I loved someone else. And this is why I never chose any woman for you. I wanted you to find a woman you loved.”

The truth of the matter was that my father and mother should have married other people, even though, in that case, I might never have been born.
===
“Tell me something,” she said. The curve of her smile straightened into a thin, hard line. “Aren’t there times when you’d rather be someone else besides you?”
===
It is not your memories which haunt you. It is not what you have written down. It is what you have forgotten, what you must forget. What you must go on forgetting all your life. James Fenton, “A German Requiem”
===
Even after a week in Saigon, Vivien would appear no more of a native than on the day she arrived, at least in outdoor settings. On the streets, at sidewalk cafés, or hopping into a taxi, she was easily mistaken for a Korean businessman’s frazzled wife or a weary Japanese tourist, her frosting of makeup melting under the tropical glare.

“These are tourist prices.” “These are foolish prices.”
===
Without question or criticism, he followed Vivien’s plan for visiting temples and cathedrals, shopping malls and museums, beaches and resorts, south through the Mekong Delta, east to Vung Tau, north to Dalat, and, within Saigon, from the dense, cacophonous alleys of the Chinese quarter in Cho Lon to the glamour of downtown’s Dong Khoi, where Nam Kha was the most expensive restaurant on the boulevard.
===
Now, so far as Phuong could tell, he wore his sadness and defeat in a paunch barely contained by the buttons of a shirt one size too small for him.
===
“Ghosts don’t live by our rules. Each ghost is different. Good ghosts, bad ghosts, happy ghosts, sad ghosts. Ghosts of people who die when they’re old, when they’re young, when they’re small. You think baby ghosts behave the same as grandfather ghosts?”