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Three women. Three generations. Three secrets. Katie's life is falling apart: her best friend thinks she's a freak, her mother, Caroline, controls every aspect of her life, and her estranged grandmother, Mary, appears as if out of nowhere. Mary has dementia and needs lots of care, and when Katie starts putting together Mary's life story, secrets and lies are uncovered: Mary's illegitimate baby, her zest for life and freedom and men; the way she lived her life to the full yet suffered huge sacrifices along the way. As the relationship between Mary and Caroline is explored, Katie begins to understand her own mother's behavior, and from that insight, the terrors about her sexuality, her future, and her younger brother are all put into perspective. Funny, sad, honest, and wise, this powerful multigenerational novel from international bestseller Jenny Downham celebrates life like no book before.
Publisher: [S.I.] : Scholastic Inc., 2016.
ISBN: 9780545907323
Branch Call Number: eBOOK OVERDRI
Additional Contributors: OverDrive, Inc


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JCLEmilyD Mar 21, 2018

This is an endearing story of three generations of women discovering themselves and learning to understand each other. Follow seventeen year old Katie as she comes to terms with who she truly is and learns about her mother through the stories her estranged grandmother tells her. This coming of age story wrapped up in family secrets and untold stories, this one is sure to be enjoyed!

Jul 12, 2017

This book was a nice book. It had a lot of intense scenes and many secrets that were unravelled. Although this was a great book, I noticed that the author would sometimes drag on the chapters more than necessary.

Mar 08, 2017

I hated this book. I found the first chapter to be very intriguing, Then it went downhill from there, The book was plain, dull, and drab. None of the characters were likeable, Especially Mary, Mary was the worst character in the entire book. I seriously imagined everything in gray for this book. The story had chapters that dragged on and on and on. I hated this book.

Feb 20, 2017

I loved this book. There’s lots to think about after reading this book. When Katie’s grandma is suddenly thrust upon her family, they become caregivers to a woman suffering from dementia. Katie’s mom is outraged that her self-centered mother who had no use for her as a child is now her responsibility. Katie though is drawn to the old woman, and shows amazing maturity and love as she helps her grandma navigate the holes in Grandma’s memory. Katie, too, is struggling. Moving to a new place after her parents’ divorce, she is ridiculed by other kids. I don’t know if bibliotherapy works, but Katie is a great role model as a daughter, granddaughter and high school student. I thought the story wove Katie’s grandma’s dementia and her own sexual identification.

Aug 14, 2016

I really enjoyed this coming of age story. Every character was fleshed out. I'd feel some way and then they'd reveal some backstory and I'd change my opinion. It was slow and meandering so if you prefer your books with a healthy dose of action, this is not for you.

Aug 02, 2016

This was a great book. Not only the story line with love, loss, and problems ranging from unfortunate diseases to un-shared secrets, but having multiple perspectives from two of the main characters. I love seeing the views and opinions of the other characters and seeing their perspective really helps with that. I feel like the story is conveyed much better that way, personally. I recommend this book, although it does go over some topics that are more raw.

CMLibrary_kmullis Mar 14, 2016

One of the best books I've read in a while, this particular YA title leans a little more A and less Y, but older teens will enjoy it nonetheless. Unbecoming features strong but nonetheless flawed women, each trying to learn about each other in order to understand themselves. A beautiful book.

Feb 17, 2016

Loved, loved this story. Three generations, long-held secrets. Love and lost love. A fabulous story.


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